Oct 142011
Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead
Thirty years after women became 50 percent of the college graduates in the United States, men still hold the vast majority of leadership positions in government and industry. This means that women’s voices are still not heard equally in the decisions that most affect our lives. In Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg examines why women’s progress in achieving leadership roles has stalled, explains the root causes, and offers compelling, commonsense solutions that can empower women to achieve their full
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Something to think about,
I had heard some of the buzz about this book before I picked it up. Usually I don’t do reviews, but I like reading what other people say about books. I’m writing this because I think some of the reviewers are missing what is significant (at least) to me about the book. Of course, Sheryl Sandberg is priviledged. No one in my family would even dream of going to Harvard. There are no doctors in my family. I don’t make millions a year. I’m single with no children. Basically I could disregard half of the book. HOWEVER, the other half really struck a cord with me. I’ve also been criticized for being too direct — something that is not considered negative for a man. It made me think about how I approach meetings. Do I speak up? Do I wait for someone else to ask a question so I won’t have to? Do I sit at the table? Do I have a voice that says I’m not qualified? Am I an imposter? Thinking about these questions made me realize that I can be passive about my career choices. There’s a young man in my department who is new to the industry and training for his new position. Every meeting he speaks up. Even though some of his questions and comments are boarderline embarrassing, I guarantee upper management knows who he is. It doesn’t bother him at all to ask those questions. It’s an interesting contrast to all the women just sitting there.
The best message to take from this book is to be aware of what is going on in the workplace. Take the opportunity to change the inequality. Don’t wait for someone to “fix” things for you. When opportunities present themselves jump on them if it’s what you want. Take control.
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|I, an “underprivileged” woman, found this book incredibly relatable,
I want to set the record straight for those who claim that Mrs. Sandberg’s advices don’t apply to “underprivileged” women – I consider myself “underprivileged” and I found this book incredibly relatable and inspiring.
Why do I call myself “underprivileged”:
1. I came to the U.S. when I was 22 years old, speaking broken English. Today, I still feel that my options are limited because of my English
2. I don’t have any family connection in the U.S. When I arrived the U.S. for the 1st time in my life, I didn’t have any friends.
3. My parents are no where near the term “privileged”. They don’t have money, power, or connections.
4. I didn’t graduate from prestige schools like Harvard – I wish I could. But I am still proud of my 2 Master’s degrees in science. I earned them through hardworking. I had to work a full-time day job + a night job + going to school full time so that I could pay for the out-of-state tuition, support my parents and my brother, and keep my legal status
Today, I am a senior manager in IT industry- not nearly as sucessful as Mrs. Sandberg. But you can see why I relate to her in many ways:
1. Like Mrs. Sandberg and her husband, my husband and I are full-time working parents with 2 young children
2. Like Mrs. Sandberg and her husband, I plan kids’ parties and my husband manages family finances. My husband and I divide our family duties
3. Like Mrs. Sandberg and her husband, my husband and I insist on having dinners with our children everyday and share the favorite part of the day and the worst part of the day – cannot believe they do this too!
4. At work, I always sit at the table – just like her
5. I often feel guilty about not spending more time with my kids or not knowing all the details about my kids’ daily lives – Mrs. Sandberg did it, too
6. When at work, I compared myself with working men. When at home, I compared myself with stay home mothers – just like how Mrs. Sandberg did at one point! Thanks to my husband who pulled me out of this self-imposed unfair comparision – just like how her husband supported her all along!
7. My kids had head lices and I had to stop working to pick them up from school. Treating head lice was not fun. But guess what? Mrs. Sandberg had to go through that, too! Head lices don’t discriminate against so called “privileges” after all…
8. Maybe I shouldn’t admit this publicly… But yes my kids sleep in school cloth so that we can save 15 precious minutes in the morning. My parents couldn’t afford PJs when I was a kid. And trust me, not wearing PJ at night is’t the end of the world
9. I cried, once, in front of my male boss. Such a relife to find out that she cried, too!
10. After my maternity leave, my male boss put me in a shared office with a male co-worker… I couldn’t pump! I went to HR and told them that I should have the same single office as I had before my leave because my productivity didn’t go down just because I had a child! I got my office back. And they found a small room for other women workers who don’t have single offices to pump. Didn’t Mrs. Sandberg ask for parking spots for preganent women because of her pregnancy? – way to go! Workplaces should be sensitive to these women issues. And yes, I pumped while being on the phone – just like her:)
11. At work, I am facing the same exact struggles she has been through. On top of it, I fear that females who came from other countries are much less represented at the tables…
The list can go on and on… I found myself in every chapter she wrote. I feel that her advices directly address my insecurity and help me find strength to move on to bigger and better things.
So, Do NOT let those “privilege” arguments get in your way. Do read this book and allow yourself be inspired by her. And ask ourselves this: If a “privileged” and highly successful women like her admits that she cannot do it all, why should we, “underprivileged” women burn ourselves out trying to do it all? I found this liberating.
The issues Mrs. Sandberg talked about and the advices she gave don’t apply to all women. But they apply to ALL AMBITIONS women.
Mrs. Sandberg helped many women. I’ll try to do the same – I am going to share this book with my junior colleagues just like how Mrs. Sandberg shared this book with all of us.
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|Only in Women is Success Viewed as a Barrier to Giving Advice,
There are a lot of great quotes in this book, such as: “To be called ruthless a man must be Joe McCarthy, a woman just has to put you on hold.”– Marlo Thomas
However, my favorite quote is not in the book, but is the quote I’ve used to title this review from Feminist pioneer Gloria Steinem, about the book:
“Only in women is success viewed as a barrier to giving advice.”– Gloria Steinem
This is a life-changing book, if you let it be. By writing truthfully (with the able assistance of legendary Hollywood comedy writer and journalist Nell Scovell) about her own failings and insecurities, Sheryl Sandberg tells every woman who reads this book that they are not alone if they ever pulled back from their ambitions, whatever they may be.
But part of what makes the book is so profound at this moment in our history is the vicious criticism that is being hurled at it. Mostly, Sheryl Sandberg is being criticized for being a successful woman, and then daring to write a book of advice so that other women might also be successful in whatever they choose to do, whether it’s running a company or raising a child.
What a spoiled bitch.
Well, that’s what she’s being accused of, at any rate. You see, according to her critics, her observations are invalid, because she’s not a coal miner’s daughter or some such, but instead was the daughter of a physician and a woman who fought to save Soviet Jews, for no pay.
That’s how you get to be a spoiled bitch, apparently.
According to Sheryl Sandberg’s critics, another thing spoiled bitches do is work really hard in school and get accepted to Harvard. Because, you see, her parents could afford to send her to that prestigious school, which somehow invalidates what it took for her to qualify. Sandberg’s critics apparently feel that her lack of financial need nullified her scholastic accomplishments.
The fact that there has been this much venom spewed at the writer of a business book (does anybody know what Jack Welch’s dad did for a living or who paid his college tuition? Does anyone care?) tells you everything you need to know about how the playing field for women in business is in no way equal. This book is full of well-sourced research about how men and women in management are viewed differently by both men and women employees, so if you are a woman trying to get ahead in business and feel your gender causes you to be regarded differently than the men you work with, well here’s what, you’re not crazy after all.
But you are also not off the hook. That’s the best part of this book, it acknowledges that things will be different for a woman in the workplace, and then gives you real, practical strategies for dealing with the attitudes of others, and most importantly, your attitudes about yourself. Because maybe things will be different 100 years from now, but since you won’t be alive, this book can honestly help you deal with your life in the here and now.
Read this book. Then give it to a young woman you love as she heads out into the world. No matter what she chooses to do with her life, this book will help.
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